Less than 200 years ago, marriage was an institution designed to offer stability. And, if one was lucky, some companionship. But the modern marriage carries the bane of larger than life expectations. We expect our spouse to be our lover, best friend, confidante and financial partner. Sometimes, they must guide us as parents and at other times, they need to obey us as children.
It’s unrealistic to expect any relationship to carry so much burden. The fact that two unique individuals come together and attempt a shared journey that lasts decades is itself miraculous. The awesomeness of the miracle, however, gets lost as unresolved and chronic conflicts seep into the relationship.
Our in-house experts have studied the modern marriage deeply and approach the needs of any couple without judgment of what will work.
The Blue Nile Methodology
Identify patterns of dysfunction in the relationship
Then identify underlying beliefs on either side that are in conflict with each other
Map behavior to beliefs & remove behavioral interpretations that stem from incorrect assumptions
Identify “trigger” behaviors and encourage proactive change to avoid such triggers
Leverage appropriate tools (amongst dozens) to smoothen communication and enhance intimacy
Suggest personalized steps to rekindle affection
Seek intervention from a sex specialist of required
High-Level Objectives
Have realistic expectations from each other
Come to a deeper understanding of the other’s behavior
Implement personalized and demonstrably effective ways to express positive emotions to the other person
Practice more explicit communication modes – especially in conflict management
Eliminate lifestyle choices that cause constant friction
Create a fool proof plan for companionship – so that other relationships don’t dilute the importance of this relationship