Generally speaking, the modern family structure is more fluidic and less stable. Old ways of living haven’t quite disappeared and new ways of living haven’t been adopted holistically. Financial pressures, technological advancements, hectic lifestyles and heightened anxieties are causing fissures in the institution.
It requires a few enhanced skills to intervene as a family counselor. This model incorporates the intimacy of one-and-one counseling as well as the rigor of multi-person counseling. Our in-house experts have what it takes to serve families as devotedly as they serve individuals.
The Blue Nile Methodology
Separate the problem from the person
Identify patterns of dysfunction in the family
Then identify underlying beliefs on all side that are in conflict with each other
Map behavior to beliefs & remove behavioral interpretations that stem from incorrect assumptions
Encourage storytelling to help other members understand the context for behavior (stemming from past social and cultural experiences)
Identify “trigger” behaviors and encourage proactive change to avoid such triggers
Encourage affirmative behavior
Highlight the unique strengths of each member
Leverage appropriate tools (amongst dozens) to smoothen communication and enhance intimacy
Suggest personalized steps to rekindle affection in each relationship
High-Level Objectives
Have realistic expectations from each other
Implement personalized and demonstrably effective ways to express positive emotions to others
Practice more explicit communication modes – especially in conflict management
Eliminate lifestyle choices that cause constant friction
Plan weekly and annual/semi-annual bonding experiences